Parenting Philly Tweens

Do your kids know this chicken?

2010-04-14T14:43:00.005-04:00

If you are a mom or dad of a toddler than you may know Chica the Chicken from The Sunny Side Up Show on Sprout, the 24 hour television network for preschoolers. If you and your family would love to meet Chica and are looking for a weekend adventure, here are two options. Sprout is offering eight lucky viewers a special opportunity to meet Chica live and in person with the Mr. Mailman Summer Adventures Contest. Eight families will also win as part of their prize an expense paid trip to visit Philadelphia's smart and cool summer attractions including the Please Touch Museum and Sesame Place. Of course not everyone who enters will win. But, don't fret ...there is a consolation.

If you plan to be in the Philadelphia area this weekend, your kids can meet Chica the Chicken for free at the Kids In Center City Playdate. Fun crafts, games, and information for parents will be available from representatives of The Franklin Institute, The National Constitution Center, Philadelphia Art Alliance, Pennsylvania Academy Of The Fine Arts, and The Philadelphia Museum Of Art.

Event: KidsInCenterCity.com Saturday Playdate
Date: April 17, 10:30am-1pm
Location: Comcast Center, 17th Street and JFK Boulevard

This is guaranteed to be a fun time for the whole family. For more information, visit www.kidsincentercity.com.

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Do flash mobbing Philly teens have talent?

2010-04-14T11:39:00.015-04:00

By Shalita Hale

Empowering through Action (EAC)and The Agogo Cultural Center are willing to wager that Philly kids do indeed have talent. In fact, they are challenging children ages 13-18, in Philadelphia public and parochial schools to 'Get Off the Street & Onto The Stage'. Tyema Sanchez of EAC and Sean Coleman of the Agogo Center have joined forces to put on a talent showcase unlike any other this city has seen. Deadline for entry forms is April 30th, 2010. Auditions will be held on Saturday May 8th and Sunday May 9th, 2010 at the Walter D. Palmer Leadership Charter School located at 910 N. 6th St, Philadelphia, PA 19123. Auditions are by advanced registration only. Thousands of dollars worth of prestigious prizes will be awarded including studio time, training, media kits, CD releases, and performance tours. All participants will receive an all expense paid day trip to Washington, D.C.

Sponsorship and vendor packages are also available, but will sell out fast. If you are a parent, educator, business, or volunteer and you would like more information on how you can participate, please call 866-382-0191 or visit www.phillykidsots.com for entry forms and more information.

Philadelphia children have gathered and cried out for our help. It is our turn now to answer their call! Challenge every child you know to Get Off the Street and Onto the Stage!

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Get Up!

2010-03-24T12:40:00.004-04:00

Keep striving

2010-03-19T15:44:00.021-04:00

I heard Stephanie Renee aka the Vibe Mistress, sing at an event in support of cancer awareness called Soul Survivors in January. Her voice was soothing, like a lullaby, but not the kind before bed time. This was more like a tune you might hear while busting suds (washing dishes) with grand-mom, or while piling sweet potatoes on plates at the family reunion. It was such a moving and meaningful experience to listen to those melodic words in the company of family. Literally speaking, we weren't related by blood or marriage or even close friends. In fact, many of us were strangers to each other. Yet, in that moment where we all joined in to sing together, we were family. We were a family united in the action of loving each other for love's sake. It was clear that the only agenda outside of raising money for the cause was to uplift and inspire one another. It felt so good to be there...to hear and feel that spirit, that I brought the song home with me. My tween daughters and I committed it to memory and now it's sort of like our theme song. I have a feeling it may come in handy for them one day. It has for me. Maybe you could use it, too. Take a listen.

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Sex as a Single Parent

2009-12-21T13:01:00.006-05:00

By Shalita Hale
Photo by Getty Images

Does a failed relationship or marriage mean that your romantic life as a parent ends? Apparently the answer is yes, for many single and divorced parents. The good news is this does not have to be the case. Although, dating as a single parent can be tricky, here are five ideas to prevent your love life from negatively impacting your child's life.

Be honest Chances are, your child knows when you are dating. She has either heard telephone conversations, witnessed your shopping patterns, or observed some other behavior to indicate that you are not simply 'hanging out with friends'. Let your child know that you are going out with a new friend and that you want to make sure that they are trustworthy before you introduce them to your family. This way, you haven't violated your child's trust and have reassured them that their welfare comes first.

Maintain proper balance Remember that first and foremost you are a parent. You must protect yourself and your emotions just as much as you protect your child's. When you are suffering on the losing end of an unbalanced relationship, you are incapable of caring for the emotional needs of your child.

Prioritize and set limits No matter how much you tell your child that her needs come first, your actions speak louder than your words. Set limits on your personal dating time to ensure that it doesn't conflict with your family time. If your date cannot respect your family time, that is a clear indication that he or she does not respect you or your children.

Model appropriate behavior Would you allow your unmarried, seventeen year old daughter to host an overnight guest of the opposite sex in her bedroom? Give your children the same respect that you demand as a parent to minimize future arguments and maintain your credibility as a parent who practices what you preach.

Take it slow Part of the excitement of dating is that it is unpredictable. You don't know if this seemingly wonderful person, you've just met is the one with whom you will spend the rest of your life. Protect your child from the emotional ups and downs of a new relationship and from developing inappropriate attachments by keeping 'family dates' to a minimum.

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Winter break activities at Arthur Ashe Youth Tennis in Philadelphia

2009-12-19T12:30:00.009-05:00

Does your sedentary student need a break from the boob tube during the winter break? Try tennis at Arthur Ashe Youth Tennis Center in Philadelphia. Now is the best time to register for the next season of clinics which begin on January 5th, 2010. Program options are affordable starting at $65 per eight week session. Financial aid is available for those who qualify.

Players from beginning to advanced levels are prepared for success both on and off the court. If you're interested in opening doors for your child's future with a new sport, visit during the holiday break to get acquainted with Philadelphia tennis life at Ashe. Students are encouraged to check books out of the on-site library, practice good sportsmanship, learn fundamental tennis skills, and develop lasting friendships. Group clinics and private lessons are offered to munchkins through adults and are available seven days a week.

There are three special events scheduled for the winter break during the week of December 27th through January 3rd.

* December 27: Battle of the Best tournament for All Clinic Levels
* December 28-30: Elite Academy for tournament and other competition development
* December 30-31: Night at Ashe for ages 7-12 (a sleep over tennis marathon)
* January 2-3, 2010: Night at Ashe for ages 13 and up

For more information on winter break events contact Terrance Scott, Coordinator, Coach, and Program Manager at 215-487-9555. Equipment is provided for those who don't own a tennis racket, but if you'd like to come prepared, you can find one here at eSportsonline and have it delivered in time for the events.

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Holiday Shopping Guide: 10 Online Retailers offering same/next day shipping proves promising for last minute shoppers on the east coast

2009-12-18T11:58:00.020-05:00

You're a procrastinator. Don't fret, you're not alone. There's hope courtesy of several online retailers.

According to the National Retail Federation's 2009 Holiday Consumer Intentions and Actions Survey, most of us haven't completed even half of our holiday shopping as of Wednesday, December 16th. Quite naturally, then, you would expect the malls and stores to be mobbed by the usual elbow jabbing and garment snatching shoppers this weekend.

Maybe not this year, says Mother Nature. Reports of a major snow storm in Philadelphia may hinder our seriously flawed shopping agenda. NBC Meteorologist Bill Henley describes the looming storm as "One of the biggest storms we've seen in December."

Still, there is hope for last minute shoppers and their families. Many online retailers have included expedited shipping options to accommodate the latecomers. Gifts for men, women and children are available and can be delivered to your door as soon as the very next day provided orders are placed before 2PM. Technology makes the process more manageable by offering UPS tracking applications on Apple Iphones as well as just about any other mobile phone. Wednesday, Dec. 23, will be the busiest day for UPS air express packages.

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Top 5 philly scenes for your tween's New Year's Eve

2009-12-17T00:32:00.011-05:00

By Shalita Hale

For those of us who are raising children, the party scene during the holiday season gradually loses it's appeal. Many families feel that they hardly interact with each other as it is and use the holidays as a way to catch up on quality time. Then, there are those who would rather be donning stilettos and sipping champagne, but are sadly, sitter-less on New Year's Eve. Whatever your situation, take heart. Philadelphia is a vibrant city brimming with tradition, culture, and coolness. You and your tweens are sure to find a fabulous time. Take a look at 2010's top five, Philly scene's for your tween's New Year's Eve:

Scene #5 Have a play date at your place. There are few events in life that a tween cherishes more than the coveted sleep over party. Enjoy instant rock star parent status by hosting an authentic New Year's Eve party complete with noise makers, screw together champagne glasses, sparkling apple cider, and kid-friendly, yet fancy Hors d'oeuvres for the whole family. Add Karaoke and card games and your kids might not even make it to the count down before dosing off.

Scene #4 Rest up for an early start. The Philadelphia Mummers are sure to entertain those who dare to venture out in the early morning in cold weather, camp out down town, and watch sequined men in drag do the famous Mummer's strut down Second Street. Here's an insider tip: Make sure you bring a seat or cushion, your snuggly, and a thermos for hot cocoa which you will likely be able to purchase at the parade along with a Philly soft pretzel.

Scene #3 Praise God. Many churches are filled to capacity at their New Years Eve Service. At mega churches like Enon Tabernacle, Sharon Baptist, The Philadelphia Christian Center, Deliverance Evangelistic Church, and Christian Stronghold; visitors, especially children, are always welcomed warmly. The Philadelphia Christian Center is hosting a New Year's Eve Dessert Fellowship at 7 PM on New Year's Eve, New Year's Eve Service at 10 PM, and a bowling party immediately following service from 1 AM to 3 AM on New Year's Day. Tickets for the bowling party must be purchased in advance.

Scene #2 The Belmont Plateau is where everybody goes. There are many places to view the city's annual fireworks display, but Will Smith would agree that it doesn't have to be summertime for you to appreciate the picturesque view of the city lights just beyond the rolling green hills of Fairmount Park. Get their early to get a good parking spot so that you can ooh and ahh from the comfort of your safe, heated vehicle. Also be sure to bring snacks and $10-15 in cash for the plethora of mesmerizing, glow in the dark toys that your child will insist on your purchasing.

Scene #1 Experience the New Year's Eve Celebration at Longwood. This is truly a remarkable experience and well worth the 45 minute drive if you live inside the city. Longwood Gardens begins their New Year's Eve Celebration at 1:30 PM and continues until they close at 10 PM leaving ample time for you to beat the party goer traffic. It's best to come early because you'll be competing for parking with folks who have traveled the world to not only see the spectacular fireworks display, but also to see, touch, and smell the lush indoor and outdoor gardens whose delightful fragrance permeates the over 1000 acres of pure paradise. There are face painters, balloons, and strolling performers buzzing about to entertain you as you and your family marvel at both the sheer beauty and historical significance of the place. A little known fact is that Longwood Gardens served as an important stop on the 'underground railroad' for runaway slaves seeking freedom before the civil war. Purchase tickets in advance for the ice skating performance as well as for general admission to avoid the lines. Adult General admission is $16 with a slightly discounted rate for seniors. Admission for students with an ID and children ages 5-18 is $6. Children under 5 are free.

A citywide call for action

2009-12-16T18:54:00.012-05:00

By Shalita Hale
Photo by Colin Kerrigan

One good thing did come out of the November shooting on a school bus in Southwest Philadelphia. It caused city officials and administrators to stand up, take notice, and respond to what Venard Johnson of the Southeast Pennsylvania Network For Family Health, Education, and Welfare calls 'student unrest'. A community meeting will be held this Friday, December 18th at 6:00 PM at the First African Baptist Church.

It was an uncanny coincidence that Mr. Johnson's organization met with School District of Philadelphia Superintendent, Dr. Arlene C. Ackerman on the day of the shocking incident. Since then, violence against Asian students at South Philadelphia High School has further intensified community concerns over what is being done to protect our children. The Southeast Pennsylvania Network for Family Health, Education, and Welfare is a twenty year old organization that with the support of Dr. Ackerman and many other Philadelphia non profit groups is working on a city wide agenda to improve school safety. Students across the city will be recruited and trained to aid in facilitating a safer environment in Philadelphia schools beginning in January of 2010. This initial meeting is the first step in this proposed effort.

WHAT: City Wide Education & Safety Meeting

WHEN: Friday December 18th, 2009 at 6:00PM

WHERE: The First African Baptist Church 1600 Christian St., Philadelphia, PA 19146

The goal of this meeting is to bring parents, leaders and community members from all over the city together to address serious challenges faced by educators and families in Philadelphia. Administrators, families, community members, and stakeholders will discuss issues including truancy, how students view education, violence, as well as both upcoming and available resources designed to address these issues. "Dr. Ackerman has expressed her position that she wants to work with the entire community in an effort to provide safe schools and an environment for learning." says Johnson. Many express concern over problems affecting city children. Here is an opportunity to actually be a part of the solution. Johnsons says "Anyone and everyone in the neighborhood is invited to participate in this process. We are looking for participation from every corner we can get it from."

Philadelphia's cool after school scene could use your help

2009-12-14T13:37:00.012-05:00

By Shalita Hale

Most violent crime and shoplifting committed by teens and tweens occurs between the hours of 3:00 and 6:00 PM, according to the Juvenile Offenders and Victims 2006 National Report. This leaves many parents to wonder why more isn't being done to keep kids safe during these peak hours. Private sector non profits are answering the call of working parents in Philadelphia. Unfortunately, many children in low income to middle class working families are still precariously finding their way home to fend for themselves after school. Not so for the Mighty Writers in South Philly, led by program director, Rachel Loeper and Executive Director, Tim Whitaker (pictured). Students between the ages of 7-18 are encouraged to hob nob with Philly's elite editors, bloggers, photographers, and journalists, as they get one-on-one tutoring, homework assistance, and help developing strong writing skills through collaborative workshops. Philadelphia children are also participating in the After School Activities Partnership (ASAP). ASAP provides quality, supervised after school enrichment and fun activities like chess, scrabble, dance, and yoga for school-aged children in the most dangerous parts of Philly.

The best part about Mighty Writers and ASAP is that they are completely free of charge. Unfortunately, these programs are underfunded and need generous donations and support by volunteers who are willing to be tutors, mentors, and/or instructors to children in Philly who need them. The impact a caring adult can make on a child's life is substantial. According to a private ventures study of tweens ages 10-14 and Big Brothers Big Sisters, children who participate in regular mentoring relationships are 46% less likely than their peers to start using illegal drugs. What can you do to help? January is National Mentoring Month. Here are three ways you can participate:

* If you are a parent or caregiver, get involved. ASAP provides a comprehensive list of all known after school programs in Philadelphia. Contact their office to get the information you need to choose a program for your child.
* Volunteer. Contact an after school program like Mighty Writers directly to find out how you can help. You may also contact the United Way on the web to find out more about their mentor training program, or call them at 1-866-MENTOR3.
* Donate. After School programs need money for things like snacks, juice, pencils, paper products, ink cartridges, etc. Find a worthy program, such as those listed above and make a tax deductible, monetary donation in honor of yourself or a loved one who cares about Philadelphia's children.

Philadelphia Leaders Tackle Teen Self Esteem

2009-12-03T17:59:00.000-05:00

by Shalita Hale

While the highly acclaimed motion picture, Precious, with it’s shocking depictions of the gross abuse of a young woman, is still fresh on our hearts and blogs; the United States’ oldest women’s funding federation, Women’s Way, sponsors a free half day conference that will focus on promoting a healthy sense of self for young women. Women & Influence: Confident Girls, Courageous Women, is the 7th annual free conference of Women’s Way and will be held on this Saturday, December 5th, from 9:30 AM to 3:00 PM at the Moore College of Art and Design in Philadelphia. High School aged girls and adults who care about them will participate in workshops and candid discussions on topics including: the importance of mentorship, body image and self esteem, sexuality and healthy relationships, and leadership. State Representative Cherelle Parker, Susan Garrison, of The Center Foundation, Angelica Biaz, a student leader from The Garage Youth Center, and Jan Figueira, of Girls Inc. will discuss the importance of mentorship on a panel moderated by Woman’s Way Board Chairman, Emily Lawrence. Cherelle Parker is expected to speak on her personal story of how her mentor impacted her professional life as a public figure. Congresswoman Blondell Reynolds Brown will be the event’s keynote speaker. “This has been a top identified need since the beginning of our women’s issues summit 6 years ago.” says Rebecca Foley, Women’s Way’s Director of Education and Advocacy Initiatives, “We are focused on empowering women and empowering them at a young age. We feel it was time to do a conference like this.” The event has had a positive response and is oversubscribed, but there is a wait list available. Participants can find more information about Women’s Way and the Women & Influence Event at www.womansway.org or by contacting Cate Galbally at cgalbally@womensway.org.